Myth Busters :: Married to a Musician

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I have been pondering and prepping for a life changing post this week and I got notta. What I did experience this week was yet another seven days living in a marriage covenant with a man who operates on the right side, the creative side, of his brain. Josh is writing a new album. When I say writing, I mean Josh is singing all the ideas for his new album. Lucky for this girl, my man can sing. BUT some days I just want to say SSHHHH…..so I thought it would be fun to de-bunk some common myths about being married to a musician, particularly a singer. (vocalist, front-man..lead guy…whateve) At least the myths in my house.

I do not have a numerical number (huh?) in mind so just going to throw these out. Time to cue Journey…

Josh

 ONE: JOSH SINGS ME TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT

For real? Why do people ask me this? No. Josh does not sing me to sleep every night nor do I want him to. IT’S TIME TO SLEEP. Why am I yelling at you in caps? Because sleep is precious in this house. Precious. He has been singing all day; I’m good. Rest your mind Disney princess-story-book-that’s not real life-people. We watch Sports Center. We go to bed. No bed-time ballads.

TWO: I MUST BE A SINGER BECAUSE HE MARRIED ME

Nope. But I can teach you how to Dougie. (kinda)-next.

THREE: JOSH LOVES TO PERFORM AT EVERY BBQ, BIRTHDAY PARTY, ETC.

I know. I know you have a guitar handy. I know you just wanna rock out by the camp fire and sing some favorites. I know. But I promise you he doesn’t want to sing the Eagle’s greatest hits or Hotel California for fun. (that’s a shame) PLEASE stop requesting Nickleback and Lynyrd Skynyrd. I have heard Josh tell me time and time again, “Honey, I just wanna go and hang out.”

FOUR: ALL MUSICIANS LOVE TO PARTY

Again, nope. Josh is a homebody…through and through. Small crowds and meaningful conversations. That’s really his jam.

FIVE: IT DOESN’T BOTHER ME WHEN YOU TELL ME MY HUSBAND IS HOT

I am going to hang out here for a sec. There is a difference between a female who genuinely tells me my husband is good-looking and a female who praises his sexiness and music ability. I am on to you attractive-bubbly-girl who is giddy about my husband’s music and drilling me with questions about our love affair and our children. I am on to you. You see my eyes? They are watching your every move. I see you sizing me up. Don’t worry sister, I am sizing YOU up.

SIX: ALL HIS LOVE SONGS ARE ABOUT ME

Well, this would be cool. In real life. But it’s just not true. As a matter of fact, he has a few songs written about ex’s. So I share the stage. The majority of his songs are about his relationship, and desire to know Jesus. He did write one, yep..one, about me (I think I am due another honey) that is titled Stay Awake on the Ocean’s album. I am not the muse in his music. Jesus is.

SEVEN: I AM SOOOO LUCKY TO BE MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO CAN SING

This is actually not a myth. I am very lucky. But not because Josh has a beautiful voice.  I am lucky because he is an excellent father, a provider, a devout husband, a dreamer, a lover of the broken and Jesus, and yeah…HOT. If he lost his vocal ability tomorrow he would still be all of these things. He might have to learn a new trade, but hey-he would still be a rockstar in my eyes because my definition of rockstar is vastly different than what people see. I guess it does help that he can sing when we are on long car rides though. -Joking…ugh it’s annoying actually-

EIGHT-NINE-TEN: MUSICIANS ARE VAIN

Not always. Josh isn’t. There is that one thing about his hair; that I can never touch it or style it..and his clothes..(can a brother wear something other than a hoodie?!)..but other than that he is totally NOT full of himself.

Josh has had to battle this his entire adult life.  What I have learned is that musicians can be deeply insecure when it comes to their music. Josh is a quiet guy, who is constantly living “in his head” and when peeps see him or know of him but don’t take the time to know him, they always think he is stuck-up.  Hate to bust that bubble for you, but it is simply not true. If you sat down with him, you would find the exact opposite.

Being married to him has helped me to stop pre-judging musicians.  Sometimes, they are just creative-brain-don’t wanna make eye contact-people. No big.

So that’s it. If you know a wife of a musician don’t drill her with goofy questions. I know they say no question is a dumb question…but let’s be real folks. Sometimes the questions I get asked are just silly.

Lastly, and most importantly, respect her position as his wife. Always. Heck, give her hug.  It’s not easy loving a music man. Nights can be lonely, money can be tight and her husband is open to the brutal stage of public opinion, and then, during the day, he probably drags himself to a “real job.” Don’t be jealous. Be kind.

There are other things Josh does to drive me nuts, like purposefully sing off key on the daily, but I wouldn’t change this life for the world. I am so thankful that finally my husband’s music is his real job. Whoop! Whoop! (just felt right to add those)

I am going to leave you with one my favorite Josh Misener jams, Ride Along. I have no idea what this song is about but it’s a goodie. Enjoy!

~Ride Along-Josh Misener~

 

Your turn! What silly occupational questions do you get?? Would love to hear from you!

6 thoughts on “Myth Busters :: Married to a Musician

  1. Oh em gee. The birthday party one. Seriously Zach gets asked all.the.time. We’ll get invited somewhere (a party, a game night, a small group) and we’ll be all excited like “yea! We get to hang out!” And then someone drops the, “Zach can you bring you guitar. We just want to sing a few songs” bomb. Blah. Let the musician be a normal human being for once! :end rant:

    • I know! Crazy thing is I love showing him off…not being musical and all..so he has had to reel me in also! Haha…life is stage for me. Not the hubs.

  2. Married to a Mathematician:
    1. “I hate math. How can anyone love math?” Yes, my husband does really love math. He even gets that sparkle in his eye when he gets to talk to people about Math.
    2. “You know my son, grandson, daughter, niece, etc is having a hard time with math, could he help them out?” Yes, he can tutor your kid in calculus, statistics, algebra, etc. But it would be nice if you at least bought him a coffee for doing so.
    3. Your husband must be some crazy genius or something. Have you seen Beautiful Mind, Pi, Goodwill Hunting, etc? No, my husband doesn’t see people that aren’t really there, do math problems on the bathroom mirror, and has not solved the “Bible code”. Yes, we own all the math movies.
    4. My kids had Pi Day at school have you ever heard of this? Yes, we celebrate Pi Day (March 14 3.14) every year with kids activities and eat lots of Pi related food. Yes, I am aware most people do not celebrate this.
    5. So does your husband handle all the finances, since he’s so good at math? No, he’s not good at balancing our checkbook, apparently the math is too easy.
    6. You must be good at Math too? No. I don’t do math, this is why I married a mathematician.
    7. Are all mathematicians socially awkward? I have hung out largely with a lot of mathematicians, many of them a very social, have very good communication skills, and have more patience than most.

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